In a post last week I briefly mentioned that I’m against gay marriage, and a couple of people have asked that I explain why that is. That is a very reasonable request, so I will seek to explain my opposition to same-sex marriage in the next three posts. Of course, this can’t be exhaustive, and I’m not an expert, but I’ve spent some time on this and will try to explain some of my reasons.
A couple of things I want to make really clear at the outset. First, I do not hate homosexuals. I don’t think they’re worse than me, or that their behavior is wrong simply because it grosses me out. I believe that God is the author of sex, that he therefore has the right to stipulate how it’s used, and that he limits sex to the confines of the marriage of a man and a woman. And I believe all this is because sex is good, because God is good, and because he wants us to use it in the way that’s best for us.
Second, I don’t think homosexuality is in a category of its own as some kind of especially bad, send-you-straight-to-hell sin. All sin, including mine, is an offense against a holy God, and all of it can be forgiven and wiped off the slate when we repent and trust in Christ.
Third, as I said in two posts last week (this one and this one), the solution to everything that’s wrong with society is not the prevention of gay marriage, or the institution of any kind of moral code. It’s the gospel of Jesus Christ. So I don’t mind talking about this stuff as a matter of presenting my beliefs, but I’m under no illusions that homosexuals are ruining everything or that stamping out gay marriage will turn the country into a wonderful Christian hetero-paradise.
With all that said, then, I’ll start with my most fundamental reason for opposing same-sex marriage:
The consistent Biblical definition of marriage, and the prohibition of same-sex intercourse. From creation (where one man and one woman are given to each other) to the law of Israel to Jesus’ affirmation of that law to Paul’s specific comments on homosexuality, the Bible is consistent and clear that sex is to be enjoyed in the context of marriage, which is between a man and woman. These are just a few examples; there are many others.
There are basically three ways to look at Scripture’s position on homosexuality. One possibility is that Scripture prohibits homosexual acts, and that it is right to do so. Another is that Scripture prohibits homosexual acts, and it is wrong to do so. The third is that Scripture does not prohibit homosexual acts. Of these, the last is by far the least plausible. It makes a lot more sense to say “Of course the Bible forbids homosexual acts. Who cares?” than it does to suggest that the Bible permits homosexual acts. And if homosexual acts are forbidden in Scripture, and marriage defined as the union of a man and woman, then it follows that Scripture forbids same-sex marriage, although there is no verse that says “you shall not allow a man to marry another man.”