A guilty soul is a soul that feels it deserves punishment equal to the offense. This is a psychological reality. The guilt-burdened soul cries out for the lashes and nails of justice. That is why the soul of man never rests until the conscience has been purged by a believing look at the bleeding, crucified Lamb of God.
Pearl, To Train Up A Child, 45
Wiser Time 
I like this quote (well, in that convicting sort of “like” way) Jake. It reminds me that all of life connects back to the cross. Salvation affects everything, or should. I hope in matters of discipline as with other areas of life to point to Christ (whether verbally or in actions).
But we sure do TRY to rest before looking to the cross. I am inclined to believe that the DSM-VI and it’s predecessors are, at their core, just ways to try and figure out “the problem”. Counseling Psychology diagnoses behaviors occurring X amount of times in Y amount of time as “disorders” and uses therapy, medication, and skill building to reduce the frequency of these behaviors. Bottom line: Guilt throws things out of whack for all of us, and we all know it and dread it. Shame, fear, and doubt, I think, are three root causes for any problematic behavior and even most “disorders”. Our shame/guilt, fear, and doubt, of course, stem from the sins we have committed. We attempt to cover (or at least forget) our sins, and a disorder forms. Addiction, Impulsive or perseverative (yes, it’s a word in psyc) behavior, anger problems, … they all are responses to the inner turmoil that is created by our inability to make the past go away – our inability to wash ourselves clean. This is why forgiveness (accepting and issuing) is such an integral part of counseling psychology from a Christian perspective.
http://www.amazon.com/Homesick-Eden-Confessions-about-journey/dp/0911866280/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1238507788&sr=8-2
The trick for parenting, it seems, is to model looking to Jesus for forgiveness of sins so our children will, too. I think we must also issue forgiveness to our children the way Jesus does. We should give it freely and before it is asked for…but we must also express it openly when it is asked for.
I’ve ordered this book, thanks to you Jake, and I’m looking forward to reading it.
Sorry for the lengthy post, but I love this topic.
Clarification – the DSM is a great way to get people “over the hump”, if you will, to the point that they can begin to see past themselves and their disorder. It is a solid, empirical, stepping stone to help people get back on their feet. Counseling psychology is also helpful for these things. Sometimes you have to get past a behavior/addiction/thought pattern before you can even begin to understand the cross.